Every year September comes and I run smack into a brick wall. The wall is built of the image I have of my kiddos…
In a matter of days every September, I realize that the image is last year’s model. It never happens slowly. I don’t gladly watch them grow day by day. Nope. One day they look at me and I look at them, and last year’s model is a thing of the past. How does that happen, and does it only happen to me?!
For 7 years, this September-Epiphany has left me feeling a little sad. Bye-Bye babies.
As this 8th kick at the can unfolds, something strange and wonderful is happening. The boys (especially the older one ;)) are begging in so many ways to stretch their wings…
Can I go (Almost Everywhere!) by myself?
I’ll tell you about it in a minute, mom, I’m just talking to my friends.
Can I help you with that mom?
Is it OK if I go on ahead, mom? (Every Sport. Every. Single. One.)
Do you think this looks good (to wear), mom?
Mom, I don’t agree with you… and this is why…
… And this time, I am ready to watch them fly away… at least, a little bit.
Instead of the impending sadness that generally accompanies this time of year, when I notice that nothing will ever be the same again, this year, I am… hopeful.
Growing pains are less painful for children than they are for their grown ups because parenthood is the kind of joy that makes you feel giddy and a bit nauseous all at one time. But, OH THE JOY when it feels like it might be turning out right. Bumpy. Yes. Difficult. Yes. Messy and Gritty. Yes. Mistakes. OH GOOD GRIEF, Yes.
But, I am watching two people become exactly who God intended them to become, and I am privileged to help facilitate that process… even when it is so. darn. hard.
So, if you are also feeling joyful and nauseous, hopeful and terrified, I am right there with you! And, as I watch my kiddos grow, and I see the possibilities for them endlessly unfolding… and they are good… I am glad. I hope you will get a glimpse of that too this fall and rest in where you have come from as you soldier on towards the road ahead. It’s a wild ride, isn’t it?!
Somewhere along the line, I developed the distinct impression that dropping my littles off on the first day of school would get easier as they grew older.
I’m sitting here doing what I do every year since kindergarten… racking my brain… did I remember All. The. Things? The simple things – paper, pencils, glue, markers, calculators, shoes, rulers, dictionaries… those things. But, more heavy on my heart – the real things…
remember Whose you are
be kind even when it’s the hardest choice
do your best even when others aren’t
look out for one another, there will never be another friend like your brother
be courageous, sweet boys – dare to be different than the world tells you to be…
I’m telling you friends, the older they grow, the harder it hits my heart… have I done enough?! They are in Gods hands today and every day, and I trust that goodness with all my heart. But. Man I miss them already, and I sure hope they have the best First Day ever (again, for the 8th time…).
To all you mamas and dads out there with hearts bursting today… we are in these trenches together! Let’s pray that our babies make this world a better place.
Because I hope that you, too, will one day have the pleasure of exploring a far-off land that you wish to adventure to, I thought you might like to know a few of our “what we wish we knew, and what we are happy we did” ideas from this trip!
So, as this journey comes to an end (the loads of laundry currently spinning in my HUGE North American laundry machine can attest to that!)… here are a few lessons learned by the travelling family this time around:
First and foremost, if travelling with kids, it might go without saying, but flexibility, flexibility, flexibility! Sometimes things don’t go the way you planned, sometimes you’re just really tired, sometimes you need a break, and sometimes you just forgot to have an extra croissant and the hangries have taken over… either way, be willing to throw the plans out the window and just relax! It’s a holiday after all! If there is a lake, swim in it! A park, climb on it! A stroll through a forest, play pretend in it (in our family, every forest becomes Endor, the Shire, or the Forbidden Forest in two minutes or less)! No sight-seeing or landmark is worth ruining the closeness, fun, and relationship-building-memory-making that family trips are supposed to be!
Expedia is not your friend when booking hotels in Europe – we had much better service when booking on our own, and were able to get upgraded rooms on arrival in many cases, while rooms booked on Expedia were as is, and often resulted in grumpy hotel staff! Getting the hotel membership is also worth it (free wifi and upgrades when possible).
Hotel choice… staying close to the city center is well worth the extra coinage for the savings in travel time and cost for uber/transit when getting around the city. Hotels with only a half a star better rating were often much more roomy, newer, and in a better location. Ask for a family suite (make sure you are clear about the beds you are getting!). Always check on parking (free, close-by, accessible). Hotel breakfast is worth the extra money as kids up to 15 years old are free – the breakfasts included hot food, meat, cheese, fresh breads, museli, coffee/tea/espresso, fresh fruit, so are very filling for the day allowing us to eat only a small snack part way through the day and then a good supper.
Air B’n’B or VRBO type accommodation are good options for families, but be cautious. Ask lots of questions of the home owner and know what you are getting (close to restaurants/shopping/central areas/laundry?). Do not book with a no-cancellation policy (we have found this to be a red-flag in terms of the experience we will have with property owners). Trust your gut!
We found the car rental to be a more economical, and convenient choice, as 4 train/bus/public transport tickets becomes costly compared with one car, BUT, in the larger cities (Paris, Munich, Berlin) driving is stressful and better to avoid unless you are experienced with European driving. Hubby did a lot of research regarding rules of the road and driving tips for each of the countries we visited, and he is an excellent driver. Without his comfort and ability in this regard, we would still have been far better off using the public transportation system. We chose to use Uber within the city, as this was generally the same price or a bit cheaper than 4 train/bus tickets even for short trips (and far cheaper than taxi). If using the transportation system, book your hotel close to a major train hub or pack light and be ready to do some hiking with your bags!
Trip Advisor!!!! We LOVE Trip Advisor and rely on comments from other travellers for everything from where to eat dinner, to landmarks worth the visit, to which bus company is most reliable, best hotels, and everything in between! I have taken to adding as many reviews as I can on Trip Advisor for the places we visit as a family – I hope that our experiences will benefit other travellers as theirs have made our trip amazing!
Great luggage is worth the money. We chose High Sierra duffel/backpack/wheeling bags for ourselves and our kids The backpack straps are particularly useful in Europe.
Carry cash. Even some of the very large restaurants we visited in Germany did not accept cards. It’s a good idea to have enough cash to cover a full meal for your family and transportation to and from your accommodation at all times.
Bring water bottles (we brought camelback-style water bladders as well as regular water bottles), particularly in Germany, where you will be charged for water at restaurants… and it is costlier than Beer or other drinks!
OK… that’s a wrap on this Travel Diary this time around. Until our next adventure… happy travels to you and your family wherever the road takes you!!
The final leg of our journey brought us to Berlin. With only a day and a half in such a big city, we chose another Hop-on-Hop off bus to see as many sites as possible, along with an extended stop at the DDR Museum of Berlin. The museum was fantastic – absolutely the most interactive museum we have been to, with exhibits allowing us to experience life in Soviet-occupied East Germany. This museum was informative and fun, and we all left with a better understanding of the politics, oppression, and daily reality of those living in East Germany and East Berlin prior to 1989.
Our full day in Berlin was a whirlwind of places… Checkpoint Charlie (one of the most tense moments of the Cold War occurred here when Soviet and American soldiers stood their ground on either side of the line between East and West Berlin; had a single shot been fired, the threat of nuclear war loomed as a reality), Alexanderplatz (food and beer gardens!), Babelplatz (underground library memorial to the millions of books burned by the Nazi Regime), Potsdamer Platz (Embassy row and nearby memorial to the more than 6 million Jewish people murdered by the Nazi’s), remaining sections of the Berlin wall, and Brandenburg Gate (symbolic entrance to the city of Berlin and signified the separation between East and West during the Soviet occupation)… only to name a few.
All-in-all, Berlin felt a lot like a large Americanish City. Perhaps due to the many influences of the west during the 40-year occupation by American, British, French, and Soviet influences – it was more of a melting pot similar to what we are accustomed to in North America. With several opera houses, musical venues, museums, high-end shopping, and countless restaurants with cuisine from around the world, it is likely very popular with city-savvy folk… AKA, not us Irvine’s ;).
As I write this, we are beginning the 5-hour drive to Frankfurt before flying home to Canada tomorrow. Tomorrow, we will wake up at 6 am on August 15th, and 16 hours later arrive in Calgary at supper time, also on August 15th, then drive the 1.5 hours home ;). We are expecting it to be a long day. Stay tuned!
The past four days (and 700 km ;)) have flown by. From Munich, we hopped on the Autobahn to Nuremberg for a day of sight-seeing there, and then on to Dresden… new record 190 km/hr. Good Grief.
Nuremberg is home to famous Christmas Markets in November and December, and the market square there would be absolutely stunning when lit up during that season… another place to return to… that list keeps growing! 😉
In order to get to the market square, we passed through the city wall… once a fortress wall of the medieval city, it houses businesses and even little apartments today! It is this dichotomy that we have come to love about Europe… pass through a medieval wall, and walk along streets created in a medieval town, to shop at beautiful modern shops, eat delicious food, and appreciate music and art of today and yesterday. It is truly delightful for all the senses!
Walking along Nuremberg streets to arrive at the Nuremberg Palace means walking UP. From the market square, we chose one of several routes to walk along the cobblestone streets up, up, up, and up to the castle courtyard. An amazing thing happened there… two little knights-and-castles-crazy kids said, “can we just play outside this castle?!” I couldn’t believe it… Germany had taken the castle out of our kids. There are that many of them. Truly. So, we wandered around the castle grounds and did not do a tour of this one!
Nuremberg is also home to Zepplin Field and the National Socialist Party Parade Grounds. As with other sites we have visited with memories of war, this one felt oddly peaceful now. The city of Nuremberg is currently working to restore the site, but what currently remains is hardly magnificent or compelling as it was under Hitler. Today, it is merely stone and concrete grandstands with the grandeur of the columns and platforms demolished. We stood and imagined the hundreds of thousands of spectators cheering and encouraging the tyrannical government that once had its seat there, and it seemed like that must have been a lifetime ago, but visitors such as us remember so that the great atrocities of that time are not forgotten.
On our way to Dresden, we stopped in the town of Bamberg for lunch. Bamberg is a World Historic Site, as it has been largely unaltered since medieval times. We walked along the bridges and narrow cobblestone streets – a perfect break from the Autobahn!!
As we drove into Dresden, we seemed to be entering a non-descript German city… until we arrived closer to the old city center… Dresden is FULL of beautiful architecture (CT and JJ decided that we had entered Hogsmeade and didn’t even know it!) and the most delicious drinking chocolate shop EVER (that’s right, it’s “drinking chocolate”… not “hot chocolate” – that would not do it justice. We are talking chocolate bar in a cup kind of goodness). Our day in Dresden was a very rainy one, so after a family run through the old city in the morning, we hunkered down in our room for a while, and then explored a little more later in the evening! We all agreed that Dresden was among the most beautiful cities we have visited. The camera got a VERY good work out after only one day there!!!
Our adventure is quickly drawing to a close… Berlin awaits us… and very soon after the long flight home!
First of all, it might seem crazy to you, but I was NOT excited to visit Paris. Of all the stops on this journey, this one was not high on my list. It seemed wrong to be passing through and not stop, but that’s about the extent of it…
I was wrong.
I’m not much for big cities, they usually leave me feeling cold, tired, and overwhelmed… but, Paris, you have my heart and I’m sorry I doubted you.
Let me back up a bit…
We walked onto the platform into the largest train station I have ever seen (train stations still freak me out… awesome to get you places, but totally freak me out… I like uber…) and didn’t know where to look – everywhere all at once and at nothing in particular. There are beautiful buildings, bridges, and landmarks in EVERY direction.
Since the train spat us out directly underneath the Musee du Louvre, we started there… (we actually visited the Louvre the following morning, but I have lumped all photos together… and ummm, yeah, the largest museum in the world is, well, Large. Gigantic. Impossible to cope with in one day… but amazing. Truly amazing.)
Then a walk along the Jardin des Tuileries (we ate supper at an awesome cafe along the garden!) toward Place de la Concorde for a view of the Avenue de Champs Elysees and the the Arc de Triomphe… our Uber driver took us for a spin around the Arc de Triomphe traffic circle twice just for hubby… 14 roads converge on the Place de l’Etoile with buses, motorbikes, scooters, and cars zooming around (remember… always at break-neck speed!) – it is a NUT SHOW!!
…on we walked across the Pont Alexander III
…and along the River Seine to the base of the Eiffel Tower where we embarked on a river cruise to see the sights of Paris by boat!
Before visiting Paris, there is not a chance I would have been able to string all of that together, but these are real places… almost mythical to me before now!!
After a further Big Bus Hop-on-Hop-off Tour of Paris (excellent commentary with interesting facts and crazy stories from an open-air roof-top seat!), several more delicious cafe excursions, and the realization that there are SO MANY sites around Paris we still want to see, we are looking forward to coming back to Paris some day. Next time, Paris, we will be ready for you… my list is long!!
Did you know… you can fit approximately 16 France’s into Canada? It’s true (one of the many interesting facts I learned about Canada at the Juno Beach Center in France. Embarrassingly, many of the facts presented there as part of the exhibit describing the Canadian political, economic, and social environment of Canada prior to WWII were new to me. I clearly need to brush up on my Canadian history…
What I am learning is that France is huge. Also, Germany to Belgium to France is a long way – Much, much, much farther than we naively imagined. Some of you are wondering how, with google maps at our fingertips, we would not have appreciated this fact prior to undertaking this adventure… well… we planned our route this past December or January… and we did it in spurts when we could snag the time in the evening or weekends. It went something like this…
“Oh, 400 km – that’s nothing!… we can do that stretch easily… Oh, 300 km – no problem!… 200 km – we do that in an evening to visit the family in Calgary – simple!”
Here’s what we know now… 400 km in Western Europe is different from 400 km in Western Canada. Some of the roads are much faster, yes, but some of them are much slower… and ALL OF THEM require a great deal of defensive driving. There are roads in France with a speed limit of 90 km/hr that we would generously call bike paths at home. No joke. It is exhausting (… maybe as much for the driver as for me?!…bahahaha…). Also, as we continued to add-on legs to this trip, we did not take the time to add those legs up… my current guesstimate is that our trip odometer will cross 5000 km before this journey is done. I wonder if the rental car company bargained on that when we signed up for unlimited kilometers?!
The most recent leg of our adventure took us down the coast of France to visit Dieppe, and the beaches of Operation Overlord (Sword, Juno, Gold, Omaha, and Utah). As with our visits to the hallowed sites of WWI atrocities, these also held great significance and were truly moving for us all.
The beaches of Dieppe are not “beaches” as you might imagine them – rather, they are hills of tennis-ball sized rocks rolling one atop the other as the Atlantic ocean rolls in and out. They are difficult to walk on, never mind run amid machine-gun fire carrying 80 pounds of gear…
But, the lessons learned at Dieppe in 1942 paved the way to what might be the most dramatic multinational war effort in modern history. The beaches of Normandy are now popular with vacationing European travellers. Sandy beaches, ice cream shops, and cafe’s line the water’s edge. However, just as the peaceful, picturesque towns and fields of Flanders are filled with monuments of remembrance for those who gave their lives to freedom, these beaches carry reminders and memorials of the sacrifices given on D-Day and beyond as our nation partnered to defend and restore Western Europe.
And after all that…
I don’t like to be negative… and actually I would argue that maintaining a positive mindset is critical to the success of a family adventure like this one… so it goes a bit against the grain, but…
I’m done with war.
In truth, my heart just can’t take it anymore. I have a very active imagination, and can’t help but read every inscription, every placard in every museum… and the photos and video footage… oh, the footage (particularly graphic for WWII due to technological advances by that time)… well, my mind is overwhelmed, full, grateful, shocked… and a myriad of other emotions that I can’t really describe…
Next, we are on to Paris, and it does not escape me that I am blessed beyond measure to drive away from all of this and fill my mind with brighter things… fully knowing that there are countless others who could only imagine such a luxury.